Ageji_Mom 2014-1-27 00:16
爸爸James说，压力促使女儿Madison （曾经的径赛明星）自杀
[url]http://nypost.com/2014/01/20/dad-track-star-killed-self-over-stress-from-upenn-workload/[/url]
[url]http://nypost.com/2014/01/20/upenn-track-star-jumps-to-death/[/url]
A beautiful 19-year-old University of Pennsylvania track star from New Jersey killed herself Friday by jumping from a Philly parking garage because of the stress of her grades at her Ivy League school, her father told The Post.
“At the end of high school and going to Penn she was the happiest girl on the planet. It was easy for her in high school,” said Madison Holleran’s father, James, 52, at the family’s Allendale home.
“There was a lot more pressure in the classroom at Penn. She wasn’t normal happy Madison. Now she had worries and stress,” the heartbroken father said through tears.
He later said: “My daughter’s stress was self induced, and although we had started her in therapy to address her issues, she hid the severity of those issues from everyone.”
Madison – the middle child of five – shared her suicidal thoughts with her parents in December and was seeing a therapist.
“We knew she needed help. She knew she needed help. She had lost confidence in academics and she also lost confidence in her track abilities,” said James, who encouraged his daughter Friday to make an appointment with a therapist who could prescribe her anti-depressant medication.
“I was worried about her so I texted her that she needed to see the therapist. She said she would,” said James, who works for Dow Chemical.
Madison also left her parents a note as well as gifts for the family on top of the parking garage, James said – but declined to describe the gifts or the contents of the note.
While Madison had discussed transferring away from UPenn with her parents, James didn’t blame the rigorous school for his daughter’s suicide. He said he was sharing the story of his daughter’s death as a cautionary tale for families that found themselves in a similar position.
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Ageji_Mom 2014-1-27 00:30
愿Madison安息！愿她的家人得安慰！
活着的人，应当想一想，那些平时没多想的大问题。.
Aron妈妈 2014-1-27 09:54
难过：（
父母要了解自己孩子能承受的压力大小，才能避免悲剧的发生。.
Ageji_Mom 2014-1-27 10:42
回复 3楼Aron妈妈 的帖子
悲哀地看到成绩伤人。
如果Madison的父母能早一点注意到孩子在吃力应付功课和比赛，早一点帮她减负，早一点寻求心理帮助，更多的给她精神上的支持，可能能够避免这个不幸。.
Ageji_Mom 2014-1-27 11:03
父母在孩子择校时，常希望自家孩子能进最好的中学、最好的大学。其实合适才是最好的。
我的一个朋友自己是国内名校毕业，而后去了普林斯顿读博士，再后来在美国一大学当教授。他家两个孩子。老大进了一个美国名校。 轮到老二时，朋友给儿子建议的学校是好学校，但非老大申请的一线名校。他和我解释说，他教了那么多学生，太知道好学生和差学生的差别了。
孩子去的学校，既要有一定的挑战，却又不能把孩子压垮； 既要呢能够让孩子为将来做好准备，又要能享受中学、大学的生活。.
鲁冰花 2014-1-27 13:27
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孩子去的学校，既要有一定的挑战，却又不能把孩子压垮； 既要呢能够让孩子为将来做好准备，又要能享受中学、大学的生活。
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混凝土 2014-1-28 12:03
面對孩子成長中表現出的優秀，表示肯定就行，不需太亢奮或者大大獎勵；對孩子的不足，表示理解和體諒，鼓勵他改善。。。家長這樣的態度，孩子不會過度自我膨脹，也不會自卑。.